Bisexuality
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Table Talks: Why do older people feel the need or desire to “Come Out?”
Well, this is a million dollar question. The truth is, there are many reasons. But, in this episode, I will share 4 that I have often heard while doing my work. I share these for two reasons: 1) to show understanding and support to older folks still in the closet, and 2) to help others to, perhaps, understand their situations just a little bit more. I want to see encouragement and grace across generational lines within the community. That goes for those still in the closet as well. Do you?
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Table Talks with Dr. Joe Kort: Can a man be straight and still have sex with other men?
DISCLAIMER: This episode contains subjects of an adult nature. On today's episode of Coffee with Keith, I bring on Dr. Joe Kort. Psychotherapist Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, is the clinical director and founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist, author of four books, lecturer and facilitator of therapeutic workshops. Throughout his 36 years of private practice, he successfully has utilized varying therapy modalities to help hundreds of individuals and couples improve their lives and strengthen their relationships. Dr. Kort specializes in marital problems and conflicts; mixed orientation marriages; male sexuality and sexual health concerns; “sex addiction,” out-of-control sexual…
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Table Talks with Dr. Mimi Huang: The Bi+ Community and Mental Health
My guest, on this Table Talks episode of the Coffee with Keith podcast, is Dr. Mimi Hoang (she/her). Dr. Mimi is an internationally-recognized psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the LGBTQ+ and Asian Pacific Islander (API) communities. Since the 1990s, she has co-founded three organizations in Los Angeles for bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and other nonmonosexual (AKA "bi+") individuals - the Los Angeles Bi+ Task Force, amBi Los Angeles, and Fluid at UCLA. Dr. Mimi has authored multiple publications and earned a seat at the landmark 2013 White House Bisexual Community Roundtable in which she presented on bi+ mental health disparities and this later sparked her focus on bi+…
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Table Talks with Rikki Arundel: Coming out as Transgender non-binary later in life
Today, on this Table Talks episode, I invite Rikki Arundel, MSc, PSAE, FBSA, FRSA, ALAM(Hons) to chat at my coffee table. Rikki is an award winning virtual keynote speaker, presentation skills and storytelling coach, and Gender expert. After founding the UK and Ireland Professional Speaking Association (PSA), their career as a sales and technology speaker came to an abrupt end when they came out as transgender non binary. Faced with considerable discrimination, Rikki completed a master’s degree in gender research and established themselves as a social entrepreneur and popular international speaker on gender issues and LGBTQ history, including delivering two successful TEDx talks. Today Rikki works extensively with organizations keen…
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Bisexuality and Monogamy
Introduction Bisexuality is a sexual orientation that often faces misconceptions and stereotypes, one of which is the assumption that bisexuality inherently implies non-monogamy or a preference for multiple partners; however, just like gay and straight, bisexuality does not determined one's choices. I can tell you that many bisexuals live happy and fulfilling lives within monogamous relationships. Challenging Stereotypes It's essential to recognize and challenge stereotypes that suggest bisexuals are inherently non-monogamous or unfaithful. These stereotypes undermine the individual's ability to choose their relationship structure, including monogamy. Communication is Key For any relationship to thrive, communication is absolutely essential. This holds true for monogamous relationships involving bisexual individuals as well. Open…
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Sharing One’s Bisexuality with your Partner
Hey there, Friend! Today, I want to talk about something important – telling your partner that you're bisexual. It might sound a bit tricky, but trust me, open communication can make it easier. Even so, please know that there are no guarantees. That is the sad reality. Understanding Bisexuality First things first, let's talk about what being bisexual means. Being bisexual means that you're attracted to people of both your own gender and other genders. It's all about who you connect with emotionally and/or romantically, no matter their gender. Why It's Important to Share Sharing your feelings about being bisexual with your partner is important for a few reasons. It's…
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Table Talks with Dr. Ben Huelskamp, director of the non-profit, Love Boldly
Today, I am excited to invite Dr. Ben Huelskamp to the Coffee with Keith podcast. Ben (he/they) is the Executive Director of LOVEboldly and a public theologian, author, pastor, and host of The Christian Bear podcast. A Queer Christian and lifelong church geek, Ben appreciates a stirring sermon as much as he loves a well-executed liturgy. He earned a BA in philosophy, a MEd in higher education and student affairs, and an EdD in leadership with a focus on religion and ministry. He wrote his dissertation on the leadership of LGBTQIA+ people in the Church. Ben is a voracious reader, avid Star Trek nerd, and an alumnus member of Phi Mu Delta…
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Table Talks with Author Fiona J. Dawson
I am so thrilled to invite Fiona Dawson onto the podcast today. In this Table Talks episode, we will hear Fiona's story, talk about her fantastic book, and discuss some practical lessons I think we should all take to heart. If you don't already know who "Auntie Fiona" is, she is an Emmy®-nominated and award-winning filmmaker. She is a proud bisexual, cisgender, immigrant woman from the LGBTQ+ community who uses media to advocate for equality. Following her Emmy®-nominated short New York Times op-doc "Transgender, at War and in Love," Fiona was honored by President Obama as an LGBT Artist Champion of Change and her feature documentary, TransMilitary, premiered at SXSW 2018…
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Table Talks: Honoring those lost at Club Q
This is a very short, and modified, episode of Coffee with Keith. It is not the scheduled episode but one I recorded from the heart. I wanted to just speak to the horrific event that happened at Club Q in Colorado Springs. I tried not to ramble but I must confess that it was a hard one to cut. The entire community mourns and for many, their days are now much more fearful. I get it. So, thank you for listening to this old bi guy share from his heart. In memory of Kelly Loving, Daniel Ashton, Derrick Rump, Ashley Pough, and Raymond Green Vance. May God bless us all. …
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Bi Talks: Why do Older Bisexuals suffer such alarming degrees of mental illness?
Studies show us that the Bisexual community does suffer mental illness at a higher degree than does any other sector of the queer community; and although there are many suggestions why, the reasons can still be debated. So, with this in mind, I decided to reflect on my 30+ years of experience and my own personal life as a bisexual man to suggest some reasons why. To do so, I use an acrostic: "TRAP." Why? Because many of the older (silver) bisexuals I have worked with over all these years often use that word or something similar to describe their feelings and situation in life. So, I decided to use…
